a little east of reality

Monday, August 04, 2008

you WILL have a good time

After party notes to a friend:

There's a difference between being a good hostess and being so intent on everyone having the best possible time that you make the atmosphere in the room tense. You can promote fun just by relaxing a little and enjoying your own party.

For example:

  1. If my drink is empty, I don't need you to leap to your feet and run to get me another.
  2. If I don't eat an appetiser every minute, this doesn't mean I don't like them.
  3. Ditto having seconds of dinner. The food was great. I just didn't want to roll home.
  4. People wanting to go home before midnight doesn't mean the party sucked. 11:30pm is late for people whose seven and ten-year-old children are at the party with them.
  5. Dancing: not everyone's into it. And that's okay.
We all had fun. I'm just not certain we had enough fun to satisfy her sense of what a 'great party' is. And I didn't like feeling like that was my role.

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